Don’t overthink on your ‘excitement’ otherwise you’ll miss the quickest train to your most amazing life.
When you notice that your higher mind is bringing you some inspiration, and you start overthinking it, that’s when you miss out on amazing opportunity to enter a timeline (a parallel reality) where a lot of accelerated evolution could have taken place, a lot of growth, leading to a whole lot of harmony, happiness and joy.
Many times when excitement presents itself to us we start overthinking. We start thinking, ‘oh how this silly little thing that I feel like doing right now, which I know if I engage in will make me feel so good, can help me bring all that things that I want in life’.
You keep thinking and keep trying to figure out how your current inspiration can possibly connect with the grand scheme of things and in doing that you miss your boat.
In my last post (you’ll find it my timeline) I shared why it’s so important to follow our excitement to quickly align with our life purpose timeline – which is our path of least resistance and most harmonious evolution.
Today, I am telling you to not ‘overthink’ on your excitement. Don’t do that. It stops all the magic that wants to come in your life.
When excitement presents itself don’t try to connect the dots with your ‘linear’ mind, because it’ll never be able to piece things together.
What you call your ‘excitement’ has a vibration which matches your soul’s unique frequency – your core vibrational frequency. That’s why when something comes into your experience you start resonating, you start vibing with it.
A moment of ‘excitement’ presents itself to you when you are in a harmonious place in your state of being and your higher mind recognizes that you are ready to on board a train which will take you to a really cool new place in your life.
Now when the train arrives, and you start overthinking what happens is, by ‘overthinking’ you bring your vibration down, you calibrate to a lower vibrational frequency and in doing that the ‘choice opportunity’ which was your ‘excitement’ or ‘inspiration’ starts fading away from your experience.
Have you noticed that when something exciting presents itself to you, it seems so nice, to exciting, so resonant, but as you overthink on it, it starts to appear more and more dull, to the point maybe after a minute or so, you find that same choice of acting on that exciting opportunity quiet bland and not ‘exciting’ anymore.
The reason is you calibrate yourself to a lower vibrational state of being when you overthink and you miss the train to your most amazing life.
Our higher mind is constantly trying to help us come in alignment with our path of least resistance and most harmonious evolution which is our ‘life purpose timeline’, by bringing us moments of inspiration, excitement and resonance.
Our higher mind waits and drops moments of excitement to us when it feels we are ready.
These moments of excitement are ‘choice gateways’ , if we choose to act on our excitement we shift to a timeline which is more in alignment with core vibrational frequency – which is your soul’s unique frequency.
When you start trusting your higher mind’s cues (which is your excitement, inspirations and resonances) you quickly align with your ‘life purpose timeline’ and you start accelerating on your spiritual growth journey.
You start experiencing up-levelling in your life on all areas that you’ve never experienced before, because you enter your path of least resistance and most harmonious evolution.
This is the magic that we can all get to experience if we can develop trust in the guidance of our higher mind. It knows what it’s doing!
So, the next time you find yourself receiving an inspiration and find yourself feeling excited to move in that direction, I urge you not to overthink but trust a little on your higher guidance and just jump forward. You’ll see crazy things will happen that will blow your mind.
Now, if you are someone who feels you know what excites you but is having trouble following your excitement, and if you are open to support, assistance, and guidance in your journey, then I have something really cool to offer you.
You can receive a 1-1 spiritual integration session from me where I'll try to help you see the misalignments in your system that might be stopping you from following your joy and allowing the abundance that is waiting to flow into your life.
This is what I do with my students regularly during my spiritual integration sessions. I try to help my students see the misalignments in their system and bring alignment to them so that you can live magically.
A one-off 1-1 spiritual integration session with me usually goes like this: we begin with your challenge in your spiritual awakening journey. I’ll ask questions to explore the challenge and keep asking you probing questions until I feel we have arrived at the core problem area, that part which is creating misalignments in your system.
Once the core problem has been uncovered, I usually share wisdom, perspective, understanding and guidance to help you see what's happening in your life, what the challenge is a representative of, and how you can harmonize that situation you are experiencing so that you can up-level.
At the end of the session, I usually give some practical homework or exercises for you to play around with, which can help you directly with the challenge you are experiencing.
Some of the qualifications, characteristics, and criteria that I look for in my students before taking them on board for a 1-1 spiritual integration session with me are as follows:

1. You are a spiritual person and do not have a strong attachment to any religion.
   
2. You have been on your spiritual journey for at least 1-3 years (the more, the merrier).
   
3. You meditate, ground, center regularly, or have a strong desire to bring more meditation and centering practices into your life.
   
4. You have followed some of my teachings, and you strongly resonate with what I share (through my written posts, my videos on my YouTube channel, etc.).
   
5. You trust your inner guidance and want to develop your trust in your inner guidance.
   

I also look for many other criteria in my ideal student for my 1-1 spiritual integration session, but these are the main ones.
Currently, I have availability for a limited number of 1-1 spiritual integration calls (which are usually 45-60 minutes long). I am charging $100 USD per session at the moment.
If you want to have a 1-1 spiritual integration session with me, all you have to do send me a private message and I will share with you how to proceed.
Oh, and if you have enjoyed this post do leave a comment I’ll love that.

I appreciated the singles even more with the cohesiveness of the album. I kinda overlooked God Is a Circle as a single, but it is hell of an opener, with the thick af bassline.
The outro of Lovely Sewer was so fucking good, I already felt like we are going to listen a masterpiece once again.
Meteora Blues felt like Medicine Burn pt.2 for me at the first glance (idk why), but at 1:04 the shit went crazy.
Interlude was a great stop to the chaos first 3 songs caused. The seamless transititions were cool.
As English is my not first language, I could understand Parody's lyrics better once I saw the lyrics. 1:27 "You told me think of it as law" part was crazy af. Amazing instrumental too.
Though it is a great song, HSULAH was not a great single imo. The second part after the bridge is fucking awesome but I kind of want more people to know Yves ig, that's why I guess I wanted a more killer single. The outro was nostalgic as fuck too.
Outro of Operator obviously. That "Be aggressive" part blended with Yves yelling was nuts.
The outro of In Spite of War and "everyone told me you're a creep" part was awesome. One of my favorites, catchy af song.
I love Echolalia so much, it was an awesome single too. But I kinda overlistened it i guess. The music video was ridiculously good.
Fear Evil Like Fire felt like it can be a great soundtrack to a FIFA game honestly. Don't get me wrong, but I felt that FIFA 15 nostalgia on this track (i know it's only me). Awesome record too, soothing vocals and instrumentals.
Purified by the Fire made me speechless. Fucking awesome, Safe In The Hands of Love type of shit that goes undeniably crazy.
Ebony Eye was the instrumental peak of the album. Felt extremely delighted to finish the album with this record.
Yves did it once again. Incredible album. I thought that must be the best they can do when Asymptotical World EP released, but oh boy, I was wrong.

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I like my build but I'm a maximalist stir-crazy dumbass and I can't stop looking for ways to make incremental improvements to my rig.
I saw a video mentioning putting an O-ring under the front take-down pin to reduce rattle the other day, and It got me thinking about how many other small creative little MacGyver-esq modifications or improvements folks might have come up with out there.
Or maybe there's some off-the-wall niche little part you found on some weird unheard-of website that really added a little razzle-dazzle to your AR.
I'm hungry. Feed me ideas, please. I'll take whatever you got.

My and my bf are working professionals. We've moved (rented) to a nice semi in January and what's extra nice is that his parents live across the road. It's a quiet close which is perfect as I WFH and it's nice and quiet at weekends too. Before we moved in we agreed with the landlord that we will put a fence out of our own pockets as the one between us and the neighbour was a wonky chicken wire fence - we have dogs and I do like my privacy. Landlord had no issues with it.
When we moved, neighbours chatted to us and told us that the woman next door to us had to move out for a while as her boyfriend set fire to her house just before Christmas and there was a lot of damage (quite a story on it's own). I thought: "oh that's a shame, poor woman must've been really scary" and didn't think much more of it.
Mid Feb she moves back in. It's OK as I don't notice her much which is fine and it's all quiet.
We finally scraped some money to put the fence in and we've booked a date - both myself and bf tried knocking on her door to let her know two and one week in advance and to make sure it's OK with her - no joy. Finally, day before I was going out for work purpose and she was dragging her bin back so I decided to speak to her, introduce myself, get to know her and let her know about the fence. She seemed pleasant and friendly (although I did sense, she has some 'issues' - which is fine btw - so do I). We laughed at the prospect of my dog chasing a cat through the wired fence into her garden and she said that the fence is a good idea, etc. I'm introverted and don't like talking to people much so this was me going out of my comfort zone and above and beyond to make a good friendly first impression as we're planning to stay here for a long time so might as well get to know the woman next door.
Anyway, I digress...the next day the fence people come and start working, I'm upstairs working. They are half way done and I hear chatter from the garden then I see her trotting to my door and shouting for me. I asked if there was a problem- she says "give me the number to your landlord, the fence is ugly and they are rude to me, we always have problems with renters here and they don't stay longer than a year because they can't afford it" - I literally stood there frozen as it was so unexpected. I gave her letting agents number as I didn't feel why I shouldn't as they knew about the fence anyway. She trotted back to her hole.
I went to my garden and asked the contractors what happened and they said that suddenly she came out and started shouting at them that the fence is ugly and they didn't know what they were doing - it's a normal fence - 4 panels with decorative trellis and 5th plain one that's joined to the plain panel that divides our paved areas. Like literally wtf.
I told them that she said they were rude to her and they've said that because theyve seen she's a 'bit off' they were trying to ignore her and not egg her on and then she started calling them 'dickheads'. They then said that they understand why I needed the fence done so quickly. Me being autistic started explaining that that wasn't the case and then the penny dropped 🙄.
I called my letting agents, explained what happened and sent them pictures. They confirmed that we haven't done anything wrong, we didn't trespass on her side (left the chicken wire fence where it was so our fence is in front of it, on our side of the garden), and we have informed her in advance and she didn't raise any objections. They confirmed with the landlord and he is also satisfied with the fence - we will still clean and paint it when the weather improves and so our pockets.
The agents apologised for the neighbour's behaviour (despite this having nothing to do with them) and agreed her comments were uncalled for. - for the record - an elderly lady rented here for 4 years before us, so the (I'm getting angry so will start calling the neighbour 'twat' from now on because otherwise I'll explode) that's comments did not make sense. I'm also starting to think that perhaps this was a threat or a type of hate harassment/passive aggressive attempt at her saying "I'm better then you because I own my house and you rent so I've got the right to tell you what to do even though it's not my house".
I would like to add the fact here that this woman does not work and she's probably in her 40s - not judging as such as sometimes it's justified but something tells me in this case it's probably not that. I could be nasty about it if I wanted to, but no time for that now.
I know for some readers this will seem trivial but it took me over a week to get over all this as I don't cope well in these types of situations. I also can't cope being told information I know it's not true or being accused of something I have hard proof that it's not the case - my sense of justice is very strong so at the same time, when I'm in the wrong or someone explains to me and then I see that it was my bad, I'm the first to admit and take accountability.
Fast forward 2-3 weeks. I'm starting to get back to baseline but still avoid her which is easy anything. Yesterday, I had letting agent contractors come to fix my window handles, so I'm sitting in the lounge and I get the doorbell. It's an agent from my letting place. He apologised for intruding but he wanted to let me know that he had a meeting with the twat next door - I asked if it was about the fence again and he confirmed but he said that we have nothing to worry about. Then he said that there are couple of 'other things' but if I don't have time now we can speak later. Of fucking course I told him to tell me now. He said that the twat complained that we've installed 'cameras' and then he looked at my Ring doorbell and before I said anything he went 'but I can see it's just this so it's ok' ...ladies and gentlemen - at this point I went livid. I told him that I think something is seriously wrong with her and I think she's got some issues - I think I said 'fucking' at some point and looking back I'm not proud of it but I went into defense and fight or flight explaining that what she says it's totally unjustified.
He told me that she complained that we have people parking on her driveway - we had no visitors since we moved here. I park on my driveway and bf at the back in front our garage. I told him that's total bull shit and if she means contractors from the agency going slightly over on her empty driveway for a bit then she can raise that with them as I really don't have time to stand in the window and watch for every contractor, delivery guy, post man to make sure they god forbid don't have 2cm of their wheels on her driveway whilst they are doing their job.
The one that took the biscuit tho - she complained that we've...wait for it...'changed or taken the numbers on the bins'. Don't ask me what bins she's referring to because I honestly have no idea. The guy could see that the number on our bin corresponds to our house number and I added that going round the close taking people's bins/numbers or changing them is not something we've taken up as a hobby.
At this point I thought I'm gonna go over to her and raise hell but I thought better of it. The guy said he agrees and sees my point and he then told me 'just lay low for a bit, it will die down' ...I'm sorry, I fucking lost the plot - lay low??? As in wtf, we can't lay any lower than than because we don't party, we don't have people round, we avoid the fucker as it is - what exactly we are supposed to do???
Anyway, I wrote a long email to the agents addressing all of it and saying that basically this is starting to look like borderline bullying and harassment. And asked them to next time let me know when she 'reports' something else so i can address it there and then with them. I'm sure that's not the end of it and she will continue to try get us in trouble because she is not getting the reaction or response she wants from anyone and she now has the agents number.
Later on that same day, I noticed she has wheeled her bin out and left it on OUR driveway, right next to my car! Like wtf! Normally I wouldn't give a shit as I'm not petty and have a life but because of the newest revelations, I took the picture of this and sent to the agency saying that this just happened and I'll be moving her bin over to her driveway but wanted to give them evidence before in case she tells them we are 'doing something' again.
I don't know what the point of this post is tbh, I just needed to vent and perhaps someone can give me some advice as I'm in bits, I'm starting to hate living here and I don't feel comfortable in a home I'm working so hard for.
I can be really spiteful, hold my own and I don't take shit like that from the likes of her but I'm honestly a bit at a loss here as on one hand I want to go there and explain to her what a cowardly twat she is and how dare she make up lies and just make her realise how stupid she makes herself look. But at the same time I know that there's no point conversing with crazy.
This whole situation is so senslessly toxic and I think that just bothers me the most, plus I really don't want to have to move, because I do like the place and because I know this will make her win and feel she can do shit like that to anybody else.
If you're still here, reading this - much appreciated.

My and my bf are working professionals. We've moved (rented) to a nice semi in January and what's extra nice is that his parents live across the road. It's a quiet close which is perfect as I WFH and it's nice and quiet at weekends too. Before we moved in we agreed with the landlord that we will put a fence out of our own pockets as the one between us and the neighbour was a wonky chicken wire fence - we have dogs and I do like my privacy. Landlord had no issues with it.
When we moved, neighbours chatted to us and told us that the woman next door to us had to move out for a while as her boyfriend set fire to her house just before Christmas and there was a lot of damage (quite a story on it's own). I thought: "oh that's a shame, poor woman must've been really scary" and didn't think much more of it.
Mid Feb she moves back in. It's OK as I don't notice her much which is fine and it's all quiet.
We finally scraped some money to put the fence in and we've booked a date - both myself and bf tried knocking on her door to let her know two and one week in advance and to make sure it's OK with her - no joy. Finally, day before I was going out for work purpose and she was dragging her bin back so I decided to speak to her, introduce myself, get to know her and let her know about the fence. She seemed pleasant and friendly (although I did sense, she has some 'issues' - which is fine btw - so do I). We laughed at the prospect of my dog chasing a cat through the wired fence into her garden and she said that the fence is a good idea, etc. I'm introverted and don't like talking to people much so this was me going out of my comfort zone and above and beyond to make a good friendly first impression as we're planning to stay here for a long time so might as well get to know the woman next door.
Anyway, I digress...the next day the fence people come and start working, I'm upstairs working. They are half way done and I hear chatter from the garden then I see her trotting to my door and shouting for me. I asked if there was a problem- she says "give me the number to your landlord, the fence is ugly and they are rude to me, we always have problems with renters here and they don't stay longer than a year because they can't afford it" - I literally stood there frozen as it was so unexpected. I gave her letting agents number as I didn't feel why I shouldn't as they knew about the fence anyway. She trotted back to her hole.
I went to my garden and asked the contractors what happened and they said that suddenly she came out and started shouting at them that the fence is ugly and they didn't know what they were doing - it's a normal fence - 4 panels with decorative trellis and 5th plain one that's joined to the plain panel that divides our paved areas. Like literally wtf.
I told them that she said they were rude to her and they've said that because theyve seen she's a 'bit off' they were trying to ignore her and not egg her on and then she started calling them 'dickheads'. They then said that they understand why I needed the fence done so quickly. Me being autistic started explaining that that wasn't the case and then the penny dropped 🙄.
I called my letting agents, explained what happened and sent them pictures. They confirmed that we haven't done anything wrong, we didn't trespass on her side (left the chicken wire fence where it was so our fence is in front of it, on our side of the garden), and we have informed her in advance and she didn't raise any objections. They confirmed with the landlord and he is also satisfied with the fence - we will still clean and paint it when the weather improves and so our pockets.
The agents apologised for the neighbour's behaviour (despite this having nothing to do with them) and agreed her comments were uncalled for. - for the record - an elderly lady rented here for 4 years before us, so the (I'm getting angry so will start calling the neighbour 'twat' from now on because otherwise I'll explode) that's comments did not make sense. I'm also starting to think that perhaps this was a threat or a type of hate harassment/passive aggressive attempt at her saying "I'm better then you because I own my house and you rent so I've got the right to tell you what to do even though it's not my house".
I would like to add the fact here that this woman does not work and she's probably in her 40s - not judging as such as sometimes it's justified but something tells me in this case it's probably not that. I could be nasty about it if I wanted to, but no time for that now.
I know for some readers this will seem trivial but it took me over a week to get over all this as I don't cope well in these types of situations. I also can't cope being told information I know it's not true or being accused of something I have hard proof that it's not the case - my sense of justice is very strong so at the same time, when I'm in the wrong or someone explains to me and then I see that it was my bad, I'm the first to admit and take accountability.
Fast forward 2-3 weeks. I'm starting to get back to baseline but still avoid her which is easy anything. Yesterday, I had letting agent contractors come to fix my window handles, so I'm sitting in the lounge and I get the doorbell. It's an agent from my letting place. He apologised for intruding but he wanted to let me know that he had a meeting with the twat next door - I asked if it was about the fence again and he confirmed but he said that we have nothing to worry about. Then he said that there are couple of 'other things' but if I don't have time now we can speak later. Of fucking course I told him to tell me now. He said that the twat complained that we've installed 'cameras' and then he looked at my Ring doorbell and before I said anything he went 'but I can see it's just this so it's ok' ...ladies and gentlemen - at this point I went livid. I told him that I think something is seriously wrong with her and I think she's got some issues - I think I said 'fucking' at some point and looking back I'm not proud of it but I went into defense and fight or flight explaining that what she says it's totally unjustified.
He told me that she complained that we have people parking on her driveway - we had no visitors since we moved here. I park on my driveway and bf at the back in front our garage. I told him that's total bull shit and if she means contractors from the agency going slightly over on her empty driveway for a bit then she can raise that with them as I really don't have time to stand in the window and watch for every contractor, delivery guy, post man to make sure they god forbid don't have 2cm of their wheels on her driveway whilst they are doing their job.
The one that took the biscuit tho - she complained that we've...wait for it...'changed or taken the numbers on the bins'. Don't ask me what bins she's referring to because I honestly have no idea. The guy could see that the number on our bin corresponds to our house number and I added that going round the close taking people's bins/numbers or changing them is not something we've taken up as a hobby.
At this point I thought I'm gonna go over to her and raise hell but I thought better of it. The guy said he agrees and sees my point and he then told me 'just lay low for a bit, it will die down' ...I'm sorry, I fucking lost the plot - lay low??? As in wtf, we can't lay any lower than than because we don't party, we don't have people round, we avoid the fucker as it is - what exactly we are supposed to do???
Anyway, I wrote a long email to the agents addressing all of it and saying that basically this is starting to look like borderline bullying and harassment. And asked them to next time let me know when she 'reports' something else so i can address it there and then with them. I'm sure that's not the end of it and she will continue to try get us in trouble because she is not getting the reaction or response she wants from anyone and she now has the agents number.
Later on that same day, I noticed she has wheeled her bin out and left it on OUR driveway, right next to my car! Like wtf! Normally I wouldn't give a shit as I'm not petty and have a life but because of the newest revelations, I took the picture of this and sent to the agency saying that this just happened and I'll be moving her bin over to her driveway but wanted to give them evidence before in case she tells them we are 'doing something' again.
I don't know what the point of this post is tbh, I just needed to vent and perhaps someone can give me some advice as I'm in bits, I'm starting to hate living here and I don't feel comfortable in a home I'm working so hard for.
I can be really spiteful, hold my own and I don't take shit like that from the likes of her but I'm honestly a bit at a loss here as on one hand I want to go there and explain to her what a cowardly twat she is and how dare she make up lies and just make her realise how stupid she makes herself look. But at the same time I know that there's no point conversing with crazy.
This whole situation is so senslessly toxic and I think that just bothers me the most, plus I really don't want to have to move, because I do like the place and because I know this will make her win and feel she can do shit like that to anybody else.
If you're still here, reading this - much appreciated. Sorry for the typos but I haven't proof-read.

Around 2021 I saw a few videos taken from a TV show probably aired somtime around the 90's or 00's.
It was a pretty normal cooking show, aside from the fact the hostess seemed kind of "defeated" in a way; There was this one episode I remember where she made what i'd call an "alcoholic's cocktail" where she added, like, three shots of tequila and god knows what other hard alcohols and put a kiwi or something ontop.
I rememeber the videos had quite a lot of views, but I just can't for the life of me remember what the show was called, nor can I find the videos. I'm pretty sure her name started with a K, though.

Every Tuesday I’m going to try and post a Criterion movie on here to discuss. I am going to go in order of spine release and would love to hear from people who have already seen it or are curious to see it.
This week is Spine #93, Black Narcissus. As of March 21st, 2023 it is available to stream on the Channel with supplements, has a Blu-ray and DVD release, and was laserdisc release #38.
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Dir: Michael Powell & Emeric Pressburger 101 minutes They Shoot Zombies (2022): 2,450 They Shoot Pictures (2022): 174
Aesthetically not a horror movie but a story that digs deep into the psyche as we watch well-intentioned nuns descend into madness.
Isolation, lack of control of the surroundings, incessant weather patterns, a group of people that go up into the mountains to build a new life, and a silent terror that eats at our protagonists. Surprisingly I am not talking about The Shining, but rather Powell & Pressburger’s Black Narcissus. It is definitely not as intense as Kubrick’s vision, but in place of freaky twins and a gnarly old lady we have a technicolor nightmare up in the distant Himalayan mountains.
Sister Clodagh is the main character in this story as opposed to Jack Torrance, but they play similar roles. Sister Clodagh is a young nun who is given her chance to be a sister superior at the Mopu palace far away from any Western civilization. She wants to do her best, and is given a set of junior nuns to help her build a school and hospital for the local citizens. The basic story is that there is a mysterious force that drives any British monks or nuns crazy and it starts to impact this particular order as well. It is a well-made piece of psychological terror with some fantastic individual frames as a few of the sisters really struggle with their sanity.
I think Technicolor is good for many purposes but not good for horror, so I struggled to get fully engaged with the terror elements of the story. They are there for sure, and I imagine many would pick up on them, but something about the artificiality of the Technicolor makes me feel detached from the story, which is difficult for a mind-bending horror film. Even in black and white I believe this would have been a more powerful film, but as it is critics adore this and it’s rated as the 174th-best film of all time. I disagree with this ranking, and would put Peeping Tom from the Powell/Pressburger team above this as an effective horror film and better movie all around.
This is still good though, and I’m glad to have seen it. David Farrar was really good as Mr. Dean, and Deborah Kerr was excellent as Sister Clodagh struggling to keep it together in a foreign land. Worth a watch but I wouldn’t rush to see it.

Recently Łukasz Olkowicz from Przegląd Sportowy made an interview with Łukasz Skorupski. Here's original: https://przegladsportowy.onet.pl/pilka-nozna/reprezentacja-polski/wszystko-wyplynelo-tak-sie-klocilismy-o-premie-ze-nie-gadalismy-z-pewnymi-zawodnikami/ys6v8bj
And here’s translation:
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Łukasz Olkowicz: You know what interests people.
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Lukasz Skorupski: Bonus?
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Bonus. Didn't it occur to you that people would be furious when they found out about it?
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Łukasz Skorupski: We knew. We were talking to each other and we knew they could be fucking furious.
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And that didn't stop you?
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Łukasz Skorupski: It wasn't our idea. The prime minister promised a bonus. In words, nothing on paper.
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But you agreed.
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Łukasz Skorupski: There was a chat between us: We'll get it - nice. We'll not get it? We didn't go crazy about it. You understand? The bonus was too much because it was too big.
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You negotiated part of it yourself. At dinner with the prime minister, you got ten million more.
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Łukasz Skorupski: I was talking about something, but it was for funnies. And the prime minister accepted it. In my opinion, at such tournament, we should not talk about the bonus at all, everything should be settled on paper before the World Cup. There was little we could do. They told us about it just before leaving to Qatar, we were goiing to the airport right away. Normally, we would have arranged this beforehand.
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When did you start talking about the bonus in Qatar?
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Łukasz Skorupski: After promotion from the group. Some things journalists wrote were true, some things not. Arguments started between us, talks with the coach. We've all been so excited in the team, I'll be honest: bonus, bonus, when is the bonus?
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And you know what's best?
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That you didn't get it?
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Łukasz Skorupski: No, that the team had a great atmosphere at the tournament. For example, we would come back from training and sing songs. We laughed that we are like Brazil. Because this Brazil was having fun after each training on drums, and we would come back and sing songs from the 90s, 2000s. We had our loudspeaker in the back, everyone chose, and then the rest picked up. Great stuff. Same music at the gym. It was fucking awesome, really. After the games we went out for dinner, we took care of the atmosphere. We were a good group, we were close. The atmosphere was fantastic and then it all went downhill.
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Money ruined it. You had an argument over the distribution of the bonus.
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Łukasz Skorupski: We are promoted fromt the group and instead of being happy, we suddenly started arguing about this bonus. You'll have so much, others so much. But we were arguing so much that we didn't talk to certain players. And the day before we sang together. The match against France was approaching. "Lewy" says, the team council: "Gentlemen, let's make a deal. We can't think about the bonus, only about the match." We agreed not to talk about this bonus anymore. With all due respect to money, but no one on the team lacks it. Calm came back, we played the game.
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The best in the tournament.
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Łukasz Skorupski: And then the story began in the newspapers.
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Did you follow this?
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Łukasz Skorupski: I read something, but you know more... They promised us an exaggerated bonus, but instead of being happy that we were promoted from the group, they started to shit on us.
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You have exposed yourself. Wouldn't you be better off if you said, "We got lost in this, we lost our heads for a moment"? You said yourself the bonus was exaggerated.
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Łukasz Skorupski: The media live off such information.
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The media mainly shot at Czesław Michniewicz (NT coach) because of the bonus.
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Łukasz Skorupski: I'll tell you that I felt a bit sorry for him. I had a good relationship with him.
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Why didn't you answer?
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Łukasz Skorupski: To whom?
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To journalists. In his defense, if you wanted him to stay.
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Łukasz Skorupski: We have agreed internally that we do not talk about it with the media. I guess "Lewy" later gave an interview about it, right?
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And Grzegorz Krychowiak.
Łukasz Skorupski: Later, when we got along and the match against France was over, we sat down for dinner, drank some wine and everyone got over it.
Has the tension released?
Łukasz Skorupski: We didn't talk about the bonus anymore. A lot of people left immediately after the game. But let me tell you in general - the atmosphere was great. It was beautiful in that respect. Beautifully.
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Have you heard discussions from Poland about the style of the national team's play? That people have doubts?
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Łukasz Skorupski: We sometimes talked among ourselves that the style was average.
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The team was successful, but people turned up their noses. Did you understand the criticism? Objections from fans and journalists?
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Łukasz Skorupski: We understood, but we kept telling ourselves that the result is the most important thing. And the results were good?
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Were.
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Łukasz Skorupski: The game wasn't beautiful, everyone said it was ugly, but it delivered results. Why are you looking at me like that? We advanced from the group? We advanced.
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Did you like this game?
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Łukasz Skorupski: Damn... I don't want to criticize Czesio like that either. The coach sets the tactics. He wanted us to play that way, so we did what he told us.
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Did you believe in this tactic?
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Lukasz Skorupski: What? It woked. We advanced from the group. At the club you play quite differently, more football. On the other hand, I understand Czesio a little. When was he supposed to train it? Like in the World Cup, we played every three days.
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Others played differently.
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Łukasz Skorupski: Fuck, who were we playing with? With Argentina. They are the best players in the world, they set their own tactics.
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And with Mexico?
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Łukasz Skorupski: And what, did Mexico play well with the ball? Better than us?
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You and they played not to lose. There wasn't too much risk.
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Łukasz Skorupski: After all, we wanted to win. If we had scored a penalty, we would have won. What... We played so poorly?
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The match against Mexico was considered the worst at the World Cup. Skorup, teeth hurt.
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Lukasz Skorupski: Really? I do not know what I can say. But what, in total we drew 0-0. Should I criticize the coach now?
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No, just don't get off topic. Tell me how did you react?
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Łukasz Skorupski: We were aware that the fans were attacking us. On the other hand, such a tournament is the biggest in life, you don't want to spoil anything. And you can't go wrong. You understand? One mistake and it's over. You know you can't lose the first game. You play tournaments differently than you play qualifying. We wanted to leave this group, for us it was a success, wasn't it? When was such a success last time?
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36 years ago.
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Łukasz Skorupski: And why is it not talked about at all? There was talk about the bonus and style, and the fact that Poland went to the World Cup and left the group after 36 years and there was silence. Did we play badly against France?
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Well.
Lukasz Skorupski: You see. We lost, but individually we were blown away by players who are the best in the world. Why do you think we played like that in Qatar?
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Because that's what the coach chose. I think he thought the result would cover everything. It did not cover. The first such a long discussion about style has begun in Poland, in which both sides have arguments.
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Łukasz Skorupski: Exactly, everyone has their own opinion. I'm interested in winning matches, points. I'm out for the rest. For me, the most important thing is the result.
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You don't care about style?
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Lukasz Skorupski: No. I don't care when someone says that the national team or Bologna play badly. There are three points? There Are. Thank you. Who will remember in ten years how we played. They will remember our results.
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Or that in the match against Argentina you ran to survive and lose as little as possible.
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Łukasz Skorupski: It was our match for everything. It is known that this Argentina eats us with talent, right? We were there more with such working our assess off, we chose the simpliest football. We were tried to stay in the tournament. We couldn't risk anything. Nothing. That's the truth.
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But then it goes out into the world that one of you ran around asking them not to shoot again.
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Łukasz Skorupski: But is it true?
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You tell me.
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Łukasz Skorupski: I don't know if anyone asked for it. Any Argentinian could say that. Honestly, I haven't heard anything like that.
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You are the goalkeeper. Don't you think outfield players want to have some fun with the ball so it doesn't fly over their heads?
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Lukasz Skorupski: Points. Result. That's the most important thing for me.
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Maybe you don't get tired, but such Piotr Zieliński for sure.
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Lukasz Skorupski: Ha, ha. Well, I think he was struggling in Qatar. He played somewhere on the right or left side. We used "Zielu" wrong, and he has such skills.
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What is the problem?
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Łukasz Skorupski: See how he plays for Napoli. You pass him the ball, he has three players on his back and he won't lose it.
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Why can't this be applied to the national team? Not only with Michniewicz, it was there before.
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Lukasz Skorupski: I don't know. I think the defenders and the goalkeeper also have to play well.
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We don't have players so weak to play so badly.
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Łukasz Skorupski: Well, no, I think the same. It'll be all right.
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With Santos?
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Lukasz Skorupski: I don't know him. I mean I know him as a coach, but I don't know what the style will be.
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He said defense is the most important thing.
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Łukasz Skorupski: Do you know what Allegri was saying? You know what Chiellini and Bonucci were talking about? That the Italian championship is won by those who concede the fewest goals.
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In the national team, you got in touch with Jacek Góralski. You have a similar past.
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Łukasz Skorupski: Maybe he has even worse.
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Downtown. Bydgoszcz.
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Lukasz Skorupski: Oh Jesus. We talked about it. He told me a lot, had a few actions.
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Did you like each other right away?
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Lukasz Skorupski: Right away. "Góral" is direct. Fucking great dude.
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Dude, buddy or friend?
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Lukasz Skorupski: A friend. From the national team he and "Zielu". The best.
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But with Piotr Zieliński, you are fire and water.
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Łukasz Skorupski: We get along. He is also so…
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What?
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Łukasz Skorupski: Not as much of a psycho as me, but a similar mentality.
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What do you mean?
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Łukasz Skorupski: Also such a fox, he had some actions when he was young.
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I've seen his posts on the internet.
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Lukasz Skorupski: Not that. Some fights, no fights. "Zielu" is fucking great. First of all, helpful, if you need something, it's right away. You know, he plays for Napoli, the Champions League and doesn't try to be a star at all.
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In the movie "Transsiberian" one of the characters utters the phrase: "Do not kill my demons, because the angels will die too." What about your demons today?
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Łukasz Skorupski: Sometimes they are… But I hide it well. In Italy they don't even know I'm like that.
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Are you or have you been?
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Lukasz Skorupski: I was. I don't want to go back to that life at all.
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Do you control your demons?
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Lukasz Skorupski: I control. I am 31 years old, I have a child, a wife. I play football professionally, for ten years in Serie A. I earn good money, damn. You know how it is. I can't be stupid anymore.
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Do you think you're securing the future right now? Not only yours.
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Łukasz Skorupski: I'll make a living from it, so I have to make the most of it. I have to. I can't play the clown, risk to go out or something. I'll tell you, I don't even want to anymore. See how cold it is in Bologna today.
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Minus one.
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Łukasz Skorupski: In such weather, when I was 20, I would put on a T-shirt, a leather jacket over it and go to the city.
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Now you're constantly complaining that you're cold.
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Łukasz Skorupski: You don't even want to leave the house. Do you understand how it all changes?
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You said yourself you'd rather invite your friends over to your house than spend the night at a party.
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Łukasz Skorupski: The family is there, the kid is here. Everything worked out well. And I really prefer the way we sat down yesterday - we talked, watched the match, drank a glass of wine. Why the fuck would I go somewhere. Everyone knows each other in Bologna, right.
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I think even if they didn't know you, you wouldn't go out.
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Łukasz Skorupski: Well, I don't want to anymore. I guess it's age, huh?
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I already told you. We are getting older.
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Łukasz Skorupski: When I think about what I did in Górnik… Parties until eight in the morning, and training at nine. The body has changed too. If I did that now, I'd be walking backwards for three days. No discos at all. I will go out with my wife to a restaurant for dinner, sit, talk and go home. Where should I go? Of course, I can afford more during the holidays, then you can make something.
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I like the custom in Italian teams that you and your teammates go out for dinner every week.
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Łukasz Skorupski: They have, We have such a custom in Italy.
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In Empoli you went out on Wednesdays.
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Łukasz Skorupski: And today Stefan Posch was punished for being late for training. We were already training and he came in after ten minutes. The day before we came back late from the match, he couldn't sleep, and in the morning he overslept. The punishment was to buy dinner for everyone. He paid today. It might have cost him a bit.
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At least the team is connecting.
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Lukasz Skorupski: Yes, yes. There's a punishment or something and a supper.
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Did you pay fines in Bologna?
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Łukasz Skorupski: It wasn't a punishment, but after signing a new contract with Bologna, I bought dinner for the whole team. I'm not getting fines now. I'm not late, never happened to me. Sorry, I came too late at Nawałka's (former Polish NT coach and Skorupski's coach in Górnik) once.
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In Górnik or in the national team?
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Łukasz Skorupski: In Górnik. Imagine that we went to a party after practically every game. Once we lost to Polonia Warszawa 0:4. I don't know if you remember this game.
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No.
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Łukasz Skorupski: We lost and I say: "Fuck it, I'm not going anywhere". I didn't go and… I overslept. Dropping in for briefing, man... 10,000 fine from the coach.
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He probably thought about Katowice at night.
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Łukasz Skorupski: I didn't even say anything to him, I didn't explain myself. He wouldn't have believed it anyway. And that's the only time I haven't gone anywhere and I've missed my check-in. Jesus. That's how it stuck in my head that I've been vigilant ever since. Coach Nawałka used to look deep into your eyes. He greeted us, passed his hand and approached within five centimeters. Do you know why?
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Did he want to emphasize his sincerity?
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Łukasz Skorupski: He was getting closer like this, give me your hand, the left one, because my right one hurts. He brought his nose close to your face and sniffed. He knew some people were drinking.
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Ha, ha.
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Łukasz Skorupski: Well, I promise you.
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I was told by the players of Świt Krzeszowice, the first club where Nawałka started as a coach, how he checked them to see if they had drunk anything. During the camps he visited them in their rooms. "What's up gentlemen?" How do you feel? - He was asking. "All right, coach," they replied. - Oh, I found some lint - he picked up a crumb from the carpet and carried it to the bin. He looked for beer caps.
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Lukasz Skorupski: You see. With us, he would look at you and say, "Okay? Are you okay? Are you ready?" He knew that when there was a match, there could also be a party. He is sly. He wanted to introduce professionalism to Górnik. Because in order to achieve something with the team he had, he had to do it.
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If you hadn't met Nawałka, would we be talking in Italy now?
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Lukasz Skorupski: I don't think so. I'm afraid that I would not play in Italy and I would stay in Poland and play in Ekstraklasa. I had talent, but without the discipline and working us to the ground he unleashed in me, I wouldn't have excelled.
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The perfect coach at that moment for someone as defiant as you?
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Łukasz Skorupski: I was tough, I had it in me, because it's family with us. We don't cry, we don't feel sorry for ourselves. Something really serious had to happen to go to the doctor. If you cut something, it's no big deal. For them, it was such a shame to cry at the doctor's office because something hurt. We grit our teeth and say hello. That's my whole family. What, I also did not go to coach Nawałka with such trifles. It was so with him that if there was a foul in training and someone was lying down, he would approach with a clear message: "You get up or it's time to leave training". Really. He was still asking. "What, an ambulance?! An ambulance?! Are we calling an ambulance or are you getting up?" And suddenly everyone got up. "And yet it doesn't hurt," he triumphed.
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Did he end pretending?
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Łukasz Skorupski: Everyone in the team finished. You know, when there was a perfidious tackle, then the coach would get angry and admonish: "Too much." But some kind of slide, a sharp entry, without crying. And man, at one point, no one cried anymore. Everyone got up immediately and developed a character on it. We were fucking going and we rode this rhythm. We walked like soldiers. I really appreciate it. Thiago Motta in Bologna also has such a character. It's like, "Something hurts? Okay, then get off the field." He doesn't care if it's me or someone else. For him, the most important thing is who works in training.
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Once I talked to the referees, they said that Górnik was the easiest to ref. Because the players did not pretend, they did not argue with the referees. There was a ban from the coach.
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Łukasz Skorupski: The coach threatened that if we get a yellow card for talking, we will be punished immediately. I'll tell you he was right about that. He showed how important details and discipline are. He gave me my debut in Ekstraklasa in Wrocław with Śląsk together with Milik and Olkowski. I owe him a lot, he developed my character, he taught me discipline.
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And hard work in training.
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Łukasz Skorupski: He was famous for working hard.
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Only four workouts a day.
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Łukasz Skorupski: Just so you know that we really at the camps practiced three or four times a day. I remember the camp in Grodzisk Wielkopolski, where we started at six in the morning - oxygen, i.e. running. Honestly? I'll tell you, we complained, complained, and now I appreciate it. I'm in Italy and I'm not at all scared of their work here.
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Thanks to working with Nawałka, was it easier for you to find yourself in Serie A?
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Łukasz Skorupski: The approach I got to know thanks to him in Górnik, I met after coming to Italy. In my opinion, it has been abroad for a long time, but not yet in Poland at that time.
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You said that you and Nawałka keep in touch and write text messages.
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Łukasz Skorupski: Sometimes the coach will talk after the match. At the World Cup, he wrote to me in his style: "Congratulations, we keep fighting." When I defended against the Netherlands or Chile, he texted me that it was a good match.
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You sent back longer responses to show him you'd changed. No "Thank you", but a few lines.
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Łukasz Skorupski: I have to let him know that this is another Łukasz Skorupski. Because you know, I changed with him, I was a bit of a boor. I grew up with Górnik fans, we were all the same in Zaborze.
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Were you rude?
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Łukasz Skorupski: You know that, well... When I met Nawałka in Górnik, man, he also started teaching me such kindnesses. "Thank you, please, why don't you talk like that?" he pointed out. And so to all players, not just me. Thank the lady at the laundry. Thank the lady in the kitchen.
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"Good morning" must be said.
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Łukasz Skorupski: I didn't always say before. I will remember coach Nawałka well. In national team we talk about him a lot.
And what are you talking about?
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Łukasz Skorupski: That "Nawala" was fucking awesome. Everyone knows that we worked hard and everything was arranged like in the army. But man... There was no money in Górnik, but he was able to arrange everything in such a way, to wind up the president of Zabrze that she paid us salaries every month. Because earlier in Górnik they paid once every six months. The coach came and we came to him to help with these payouts. He met with the president and they started paying monthly. We didn't have rarities, but some fruits appeared after training.
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The fields had to be even.
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Łukasz Skorupski: Bartek Spałek, our masseur, I remember that he took creatine, some other supplements, conditioners. Everything was coming in.
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Was it Nawałka who introduced it?
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Lukasz Skorupski: Yes! Earlier, come on, and he introduced such a greater professionalism - breakfasts in the club, dinners in the club. He was trying to put it all together. Although I remember, honestly, that sometimes we complained about it.
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You called him Fidel.
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Łukasz Skorupski: It was like that, we were exercising at the gym. He was looking one way and you did eight reps instead of ten. Right away he would be angry with you: "How much have you done?! Eight! Two more!". I don't know how he saw it, but he didn't miss a thing man, he saw it all. At one point, the team thought, "Well, there's no resisting and there's a ride. We're going this way." We didn't have any outstanding players, and we were standing well in the table, even in sixth place.
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And many got promoted: you, Paweł Olkowski, Arek Milik.
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Łukasz Skorupski: Each of us has gone abroad. It was so that when Nawałka started, I did not believe in such things at all. He brought Remek Rzepka to the club, I think he studied in America. And he introduced what the entire Ekstraklasa is doing now. And yet we are talking about what happened ten years ago in Poland. They were the first to introduce rollovers.
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How did you react?
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Łukasz Skorupski: I did it, but with the thought - what the fuck is this? Shall I roll some muscles? Some rubber, extra work? Give me the ball and the games. And they began to notice that motor skills are improving, that injuries are prevented. In Górnik, everyone had to be at the gym half an hour before training.
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And you are doing it in Bologna now.
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Łukasz Skorupski: It's normal abroad. In Poland, it came with coach Nawałka. You know how it was in Ekstraklasa. Earlier, probably with coach Wieczorek... Although I don't remember. Okay, never mind. I was already playing in the first team, and I would arrive at the club at 10:50. Five minutes to get changed and at 11 I left for training. End of training, bath and departure.
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This would not work for Nawałka.
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Łukasz Skorupski: You had to be in his locker room 45 minutes before training. Let me tell you, I really appreciate it now. The best coach I had in Poland. I always talked when I was playing for Górnik that coach Nawałka should join the national team. He's gonna make all these rules, damn it. And you see - he did some result.
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Quarterfinals of the European Championship.
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Łukasz Skorupski: Damn, well... But let me tell you that at the national team it was a bit different. Lighter.
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At the first team training camp in Grodzisk Wielkopolski there was also a similar drill, only the players told him to let it go.
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Łukasz Skorupski: I wasn't there yet. He was so much more laid back after that. And you can't go like that during training sessions with the national team, because you play two matches a week. You come prepared from the club, you work on tactics without great strength and so on, because the match is coming soon. This is what it looks like in the national team. More could be done when it was EURO, where we had two weeks of preparation. Now at the World Cup, we didn't live in training either. All the time tactics and matches. But, you know, you've been in form because you're coming mid-season.
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I always remember Coach Nawałka well. I don't know how he did it, because there was poverty in Górnik, but at some point we had everything I said - nutrients, some fruit after training. We were paid our salaries every month. We went to Zakopane for the camp. Oh Jesus. We stayed in one of the best hotels. And what the fuck, how much we ran. But let me tell you - I have respect for the fact that he developed such a character for me.
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A lot of coaches could kick you out of the club for "Lorneta and Medusa", where you fought with other customers and trashed the place.
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Łukasz Skorupski: Well fuck, that's why I'm telling you. He gave me a second chance, he did a great job. After it happened, I had a meeting with him at the club. I entered the coach room without knocking. I sat down on the sofa right away, I remember that. The coach looked at me strangely: "What are you doing?! Get up, leave and come back like a normal person." So I went out, this time I knocked. I sat down and told him everything how it was.
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How did he react?
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Łukasz Skorupski: Nice, because he said that he also did stupid things in his youth. It happens to young people, you know you have to go crazy. The most important thing for him was not to do it again. And I didn't repeat it. I didn't play in the first match after this action, but in the next round I was again in the lineup. I had a good season, my best in Ekstraklasa. Because you know, damn, I wanted to repay him a little.
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Well, but he gave up on your brother.
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Łukasz Skorupski: Not him, but club's board.
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Michał was after a serious injury and trained as a guest with the first team of Górnik. He had a chance to stay.
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Lukasz Skorupski: Exactly. He was injured, he did not have a contract with Górnik, but he could train with us. We just did this action in "Lorneta and Meduza" and they thanked him right away.
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As the first.
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Łukasz Skorupski: Earlier there was an idea to offer him a contract. I got a penalty, Olo Kwiek got a penalty, Adam Danch got a penalty.
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How did the 20-year-old, promising player in Ekstraklasa felt arrested?
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Łukasz Skorupski: Four of us were in arrest - me, Adam Danch, Olek Kwiek and my brother. Each in a different cell. And man, what's going on down there? You sit and sleep with a break for food.
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Although good?
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Łukasz Skorupski: A piece of bread and tea in a metal mug. Jesus. The worst days of my life. I promise you. The worst three days of my life! I had everything ruffled, you're lying in the same clothes. Nor bathe, only pee somewhere next to people.
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Who were you sitting with?
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Łukasz Skorupski: With a guy who sold drugs to someone else who died. You understand?
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With a dealer.
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Lukasz Skorupski: Yes. Life is like that. I don't know how in Italy they will read it and ask: what the...? Even though it was ten years ago, write that it was ten years ago.
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You had a black eye then.
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Łukasz Skorupski: We sat in the same clothes and waited for them to take us out. We left after three days. We were pulled out by the late Krzysiu Maj with Bartek Laburda. Before that, there was also a sobering-up room. You go, you strip down to your panties and you sleep like that. Just so you know, because there are some psychos... They take their belts off, everything. You are lying on a mattress on the ground, and the worst thing is that there are twenty people in the room and there is no toilet.
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How did Matilde react to all this when you told her what you were like?
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Łukasz Skorupski: Well, she was in shock. But she also knows that I have changed. Also thanks to her. She appreciates that I was able to leave Zaborze and take care of myself, and you know what a difference it makes.
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Big?
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Łukasz Skorupski: Man, no... Compared to my life in Poland, it's a gulf. She appreciates that I was able to adapt to another. This in Italy. You know how they live here, you've seen it - coffee, cappuccino. Although there is also crime in Italy.
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You, for example, were robbed in Bologna.
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Łukasz Skorupski: Sometimes when I think about it, it still makes me furious. We lived on the ground floor in an apartment with a garden. I was playing at home against Napoli, Matilde left the house half an hour after kick-off. They had to watch her. After the match with my young and "Zielu" we still kicked the ball in the gym at the stadium. Leo knows his uncle, likes him. Everything's fine, we go home, and there's like a bomb went off. Everything is broken, lying on the ground. I felt fucking bad.
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Matylda was in Zaborze?
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Lukasz Skorupski: She was.
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Did she like it?
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Łukasz Skorupski: These were our beginnings, and you know how it is in a relationship - deeply in love, you won't say anything bad. Today, as she recalls that visit, she admits that she was shocked.
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What shocked her the most?
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Łukasz Skorupski: That Silesia is still so gray. And she's from Sardinia. For her, the strangest thing was that every block in Zaborze is the same. Only the number changes. She shook her head: "All the blocks are the same. Only the hospitals are different, and there is no difference." And what, well, I took her to Auschwitz, I remember. She insisted on going there. For Italians, this is a moving story, they take the history of the concentration camps seriously. She wanted to see, so we went. Today, when Matilde is in Poland, we mainly visit my family in the countryside. We will also go there this June.
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Where?
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Łukasz Skorupski: To my mother. It's a village, 50 kilometers from Brodnica. It takes an hour and a half to get to Toruń. Lakes, we have a boat, fish, bonfires in the evenings. It's fucking great there. Matilde likes it too, she loves nature. Boy, we're walking somewhere in the fields, and she raves about the cows. She's in love with animals, right. Cows, chickens, it doesn't matter.
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The whole family from mother and father - cousins, aunts - lives there. They all live 15 kilometers next to each other. One family from mom, the other from dad. Here is one village, here is another, and there was a disco between them. My parents met there. Later, my father went to Silesia to work in a mine, and my mother with him.
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Your dad wasn't interested in football.
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Łukasz Skorupski: He was from the countryside, he had nothing to do with football. He didn't play it at all. The old man was a boxer. You know, he trained himself and boxed himself.
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Did he go to your games?
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Lukasz Skorupski: No. Rarely. I don't blame him. I never wanted to be daddy's boy. When I was young, he used to come to a game.
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And when have you already played in Ekstraklasa?
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Łukasz Skorupski: I don't think he came to Ekstraklasa even once. My old man wasn't a Górnik. He watched on TV.
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When I started training in Zaborze when I was young, I jumped over the fence and was already on the pitch. Nobody had to see me off. When I was ten years old, times were different, I would get on a tram and drive an hour to training. Two transfers from Zaborze and you had to walk there too.
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You were ten years old and you were already driving alone?
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Łukasz Skorupski: We traveled from Zaborze in two or three. We had a training group where parents of other coaches licked ass, and I was always alone. I don't blame the old man for not coming. I know he worked hard and had to rest after the mine. Those who had more money, some business of their own, could come to their son whenever they wanted. They were sucking up to the coaches, giving gifts so that only the kid would play. I was the only one who didn't care about it. I was fucking great keeper in the youngsters and the coach loved me. His name is Jerzy Urban. Write it, write it, he will be happy. Sometimes we text each other. He treated me fairly even though I came without my parents and I didn't suck up to anyone. I was good and that was it, and he let me play. Other parents were furious: "Why doesn't my son play, I bought shirts for the team." The coach liked me so much that he would take me home after training and drink tea with the old ones.
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Two years older brother, Michał, also played football.
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Łukasz Skorupski: I think that as a goalkeeper I feel so good and agile because I had a different childhood. I would go outside with the boys and jump from tree to tree, doing some flips in the bushes. And train to add to that. Mom would let us out at nine o'clock in the morning, we would come back at 11 pm, when she was screaming from the window: "Come home!". That's how I grew up, huh.
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I would never trade my childhood for anything. I went crazy. Jesus, you went to the lake, no matter if the water was warm or cold. When I was young, I spent my summers in the countryside. We drove tractors, I went to work to pick strawberries or potatoes.
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Did they pay well?
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Łukasz Skorupski: Tenner in an hour. We earned about 50pln a day. In the evening we met at the fire station and played a match, and at the end a shop and ice cream. The next day the same. Oh, I slept in the barn too.
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Idyllic, carefree.
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Łukasz Skorupski: Like in the countryside. It was a little different in the city. Although I played football everywhere - in the countryside and in the city.

I (23F) recently got tested for ADHD and ASD by the advice of my therapist and medication doctor. It was by an official, for lack of better words, “tester.” She has a doctorate in psychology BUT is NOT a psychologist. (I feel like that would make a difference) The Psy.D. said I have ADHD but not ASD. She told me I’m right on the line where you are or aren’t, but because I have great social skills (can make friends, keep them, continue a conversation, reply when prompted etc.) I am not. I did ask more, but it came down to my social skills, which feels very subjective, rather than the “objective tests and results” that they are supposed to be. She said her observation of our conversations are the reason I’m not autistic.
She told me how I tested exceptionally, average, or below average in different tests. Cool. Makes sense, we aren’t all going to be good at everything, but then it felt like the ASD came down to her opinion rather than concrete evidence. She also told me a lot of the things I said felt like ASD, are actually just my anxiety and ADHD. (Such as social interactions, perception of the world, etc.)
It felt really invalidating. I felt like all of the research I had looked into it, the silly memes I related to, the things I identified with, the feeling I finally found a name for how I feel about/perceive the world, was wrong.
She also wrote some stuff in the final official report that felt really rude. “She was 20 minutes late to our second appointment.” (I was 3 minutes late and I got locked out of the building and tried calling) she also said that I can function fine and do all the proper tasks I need to. Which is a lie!! I’m really debilitatingly chronically ill. I have Dysautonomia and a whole entire list of other chronic illnesses and symptoms. I can do basic things on own, go to the bathroom, brush teeth, bathe, etc. but it exhausts me. I specifically told her that when she was asking me about my medical history. I told her I’m really sick all the time and I can’t function like a normal human. In her write out on the official report, she wrote all my symptoms and illnesses in quotations. It felt like she didn’t actually believe that either. I feel like she also thinks all my illnesses and symptoms are “due to anxiety.”
I talked to my therapist about it and how I felt. I sent her the whole report. She said she didn’t like how Psy.D. blamed it all on anxiety. “Anxiety isn’t a cause, it’s a result.” Therapist also said the other clients who went to the same lady also complained that they felt invalidated by her. That she seems to think she knows it all and that she’s very objective, which she clearly isn’t.
I asked my medication doctor why he thinks I have ASD. He told me that because I have so many different things, such as depression, anxiety, OCD, bipolar II, dyslexia, sensory issues, eating disorder, etc. that it would make sense I have ASD because it is a neurological disorder. He says you don’t see all of that without ASD. Actually, he asked if I’m on the spectrum at our first meeting because of how I sit(with my legs up close to my body). He meets with lots of people with ASD.
I was actually asked by multiple different doctors (when I was older) and friends because of my mannerisms, thought process, patterns of speech, specific interests/hobbies, crazy amount of information on “non-important” things, etc.
I’ve been told by a ton of my doctors and so forth, that ADHD in women is not always diagnosed until much later in life because it presents differently in men and women. The same has also been said about ASD. (I actually wasn’t diagnosed with dyslexia until I was in 6th grade because I masked it so well. None of the teachers listened to my mom, who told them there was a learning issue, because I was “smart” and tested above my grade level. No one ever thought I had ADHD because I was a good student when I was younger.)
One of my close friends, who I relate to a lot, is officially diagnosed with ASD and she said that she has ASD but also hyper empathy. When she sent me resources on that, I also related to it so much. I read through some of the material and didn’t even realize that most people I am around, do not feel the same way I do about things. I mean, I’ve always known that because I’m on the ace spectrum as well, and sexuality as a whole is strange to me, but! It felt really validating that people with ASD can also have “good social skills” and empathy. I mean… I knew that, but it was also nice to see actual studies on it too. My friend also think that Psy.D. doesn’t know the newer research in autism and/or hyper empathy in autistic people.
I know my mom wants to meet with Psy.D. about the results and talk about the readout with her bullet point topics. (Oh btw my mom is my caretaker due to my health issues). She is really upset by how Psy.D. downplayed my health issues. I feel like Psy.D. Won’t change her report, nor listen to why I feel she got my ASD diagnosis wrong, but I’ll try anyway… I feel like it might be more harmful than helpful… but I’m not sure…
If you’ve read this far, thank you so much. It means a lot to me. I’m so so sorry if it’s a jumbled mess or confusing. I mostly came here to rant, but also ask you what you think about the situation. It’s been taking up my entire mental space. I’m constantly thinking about it and feeling so invalid… Do you have any advice? I just feel like I found another part of my identity, only for it to be completely invalidated and taken away. Anyway! I’m so sorry if this was a lot!! Thank you for reading this far!! :) (P.s. right when I went to post this, I read a post about why they left autism because of all the tiktok girls. I actually posted there first, but after reading how it’s overflowing with people who aren’t really autistic, I also am posting it here in hopes someone has some advice. I’m actually really stressed to post this now, but I really want to get other’s opinions… I can also post a whole entire list of reasons why I think I am if that would make a difference? Like I don’t think I’m “quirky” if I’m autistic. I just know all my life certain things have been super difficult without reason, and ASD really feels like the answer I’ve been searching for)

With accompanying annoying music videos even better. Think hampsterdance, crazy frog, crab rave etc. Things they'll either keep singing or beg him to play/watch.

I (23F) recently got tested for ADHD and ASD by the advice of my therapist and medication doctor. It was by an official, for lack of better words, “tester.” She has a doctorate in psychology BUT is NOT a psychologist. (I feel like that would make a difference) The Psy.D. said I have ADHD but not ASD. She told me I’m right on the line where you are or aren’t, but because I have great social skills (can make friends, keep them, continue a conversation, reply when prompted etc.) I am not. I did ask for more information and reasoning, but it came down to my social skills, which feels very subjective, rather than the “objective tests and results” that they’re supposed to be. She said her observation of our conversations is why she says I’m not.
She told me how I tested exceptionally, average, or below average in different tests. Cool. Makes sense, we aren’t all going to be good at everything, but then it felt like the ASD came down to her opinion rather than concrete evidence. She also told me a lot of the things I said felt like ASD, are actually just my anxiety and ADHD. (Such as social interactions, perception of the world, etc.)
It felt really invalidating. I felt like all of the research I had looked into it, the silly (not always accurate) tests I’ve done online, the things I identified with, the feeling I finally found a name for how I feel about/perceive the world, was wrong.
She also wrote some stuff in the final official report that felt really rude. “She was 20 minutes late to our second appointment.” (I was 3 minutes late and I got locked out of the building and tried calling) she also said that I can function fine and do all the proper tasks I need to. Which is a lie!! I’m really debilitatingly chronically ill. I have Dysautonomia and a whole entire list of other chronic illnesses and symptoms. I can do basic things on own, go to the bathroom, brush teeth, bathe, etc. but it exhausts me. I specifically told her that when she was asking me about my medical history. I told her I’m really sick all the time and I can’t function like a normal human. In her write out on the official report, she wrote all my symptoms and illnesses in quotations. It felt like she didn’t actually believe that either. I feel like she also thinks all my illnesses and symptoms are “due to anxiety.”
I talked to my therapist about it and how I felt. I sent her the whole report. She said she didn’t like how Psy.D. blamed it all on anxiety. “Anxiety isn’t a cause, it’s a result.” Therapist also said the other clients who went to the same lady also complained that they felt invalidated by her. That she seems to think she knows it all and that she’s very objective, which she clearly isn’t.
I asked my medication doctor why he thinks I have ASD. He told me that because I have so many different things, such as depression, anxiety, OCD, bipolar II, dyslexia, sensory issues, eating disorder, etc. that it would make sense I have ASD because it is a neurological disorder. He says you don’t see all of that without ASD. Actually, he asked if I’m on the spectrum at our first meeting because of how I sit(with my legs up close to my body). He meets with lots of people with ASD.
I was actually asked by multiple different doctors (when I was older) and friends because of my mannerisms, thought process, patterns of speech, specific interests/hobbies, crazy amount of information on “non-important” things, etc.
I’ve been told by a ton of my doctors and so forth, that ADHD in women is not always diagnosed until much later in life because it presents differently in men and women. The same has also been said about ASD. (I actually wasn’t diagnosed with dyslexia until I was in 6th grade because I masked it so well. None of the teachers listened to my mom, who told them there was a learning issue, because I was “smart” and tested above my grade level. No one ever thought I had ADHD because I was a good student when I was younger.)
One of my close friends, who I relate to a lot, is officially diagnosed with ASD and she said that she has ASD but also hyper empathy. When she sent me resources on that, I also related to it so much. I read through some of the material and didn’t even realize that most people I am around, do not feel the same way I do about things. I mean, I’ve always known that because I’m on the ace spectrum as well, and sexuality as a whole is strange to me, but! It felt really validating that people with ASD can also have “good social skills” and empathy. I mean… I knew that, but it was also nice to see actual studies on it too. My friend also think that Psy.D. doesn’t know the newer research in autism and/or hyper empathy in autistic people.
I know my mom wants to meet with Psy.D. about the results and talk about the readout with her bullet point topics. (Oh btw my mom is my caretaker due to my health issues). She is really upset by how Psy.D. downplayed my health issues. I feel like Psy.D. Won’t change her report, nor listen to why I feel she got my ASD diagnosis wrong, but I’ll try anyway… I feel like it might be more harmful than helpful… but I’m not sure…
If you’ve read this far, thank you so much. It means a lot to me. I’m so so sorry if it’s a jumbled mess or confusing. I mostly came here to rant, but also ask you what you think about the situation. It’s been taking up my entire mental space. I’m constantly thinking about it and feeling so invalid… Do you have any advice? I just feel like I found another part of my identity, only for it to be completely invalidated and taken away. Anyway! I’m so sorry if this was a lot!! Thank you for reading this far!! :) (P.s. right when I went to post this, I saw a post about people who were told they aren’t autistic through assessments, have comments full of people telling them the tester is wrong or to seek another opinion, are taking up a space that isn’t really for them… I’m actually really stressed to post this now, but I really want to get other’s opinions… I can also post a whole entire list of reasons why I think I am if that would make a difference? Like I don’t think I’m “quirky” if I’m autistic. I just know things all my life certain things have been super difficult without reason, and ASD really feels like the answer I’ve been searching for)

I just need to vent, I'm new to Door dash, got a delivery last night for $14, I accepted, but since I was driving/distracted didn't get a chance to look closely at the delivery. 1 min after I accept, get a text saying the food is sitting ready and I should hurry up, then another minute later I get a call from Doordash on behalf of the customer asking if I'm on my way to the restaurant. I'm like... yeah I literally just got this. Then when I arrive at the restaurant, it's actually two pickups... one of them was super cold. The guy working said the bag had been there for a really long time and explained that no one was accepting the order and one person who did accept the order canceled it. So I head out and drop off the first one, not too far away and the customer was pleasant. The second one (cold one) I realize is crazy far, like over 10km it's like over a 20min drive across the city. Get there and the customer gives me a dirty look and takes the food. Once the delivery is done I'm looking at the payouts and realized the first one was $8 (with tip) and the second one was $6 (no tip) It wasn't until after contemplating everything during the long drive back that I figured no one was picking up the $6 one cause it was crazy far and there's no way people were willing to do 40 min of driving for $6 so Door dash tried to combine it with another somewhat decent order to make it seem like a better deal or hoping that drivers won't notice the distance and horrible rate when they accept. On top of it, all the customer gave me a bad rating. I'm like wtf lady, I took your wack delivery when no one else would. Anyways, gonna have to be more vigilant with this app it seems to avoid the shit that gets shoveled our way.

Hi, I'm looking for a TikTok video (or the source material) that I saw in summer 2021, which was a short clip of two 3D animated creatures, probably frogs or aliens, swaying and looking scared on a rollercoaster or in a space ship. I think they were a blue-grey colour, similar to the Crazy Frog. There was guitar synth type music playing in the background (sorry I don't know how to describe it properly).
The video I saw had the caption "my mom when I do 31mph in a 30mph lane" or something similar. I remember favouriting the video, I think it has since been deleted because I can't find it again.
Thanks.

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The Technical Element

Design for change

- The old google mantra is right. Design for change. Change is having to deploy new software, upgrade existing software, scaling, equipment breaking, and people shifting around. - Everything in this mantra is about finding balance. You might think it's a good idea to tightly marry your system to a particular OS or Linux distro. It's just as bad of an idea to separately them entirely. Use layers and a _little_ indirection if you must. - This does not mean complete and total platform agnostics. It's about making one system two, two systems twenty. Dealing if a sysadmin gets hit by a bus, if that dangling harddrive dies, if someone runs rm -rf /. It's for the incremental changes. Security updates, pushing new corporate content.

Use automatic, repeatable builds

- Don't build anything by hand. If you do, do it twice, and grab every single command the second time around. - I cannot stress how important this is. It should take no more than 15 minutes from bare metal to production for new hardware. There does not need to be a human element to screw it up, or get punished when a server goes down and no one knows how to replace it. - This is true for anything. There is _no_ such thing as a "one off" server build. If you've built it once, and it only needs to exist once, it will exist twice. The second time around is when it breaks, or if you need to do a major upgrade or consolidation two years down the road and have no frickin' clue how it was put together. - Test, vet new builds. This should be easy because your builds are all automatic, correct? - Scripted builds means that upgrade from Linux Distro Version 3 to Version 4 is absolutely clear cut. Install Version 4 and test the scripts. Read documentation and fix until it works again. This should be a week's worth of work at most, not a yearlong project. (to finish just in time for Version 5 to come out!).

Use redundancy

- Just beacuse something might be easy to rebuild, doesn't mean you can ignore redundancy. Jump boxes, mail servers, billing gateways, whatever. Wouldn't it be a hell of a lot easier if you could swap out one half of the equation without causing downtime for your customers? - ... and along those lines, you get to "deal with it later!" when a box goes down at 3am, and the redundant machine kicks in. - Even if it's not ideal, go for it anyway. Rsync'ing configs to a second box is a step above nothing. DRBD might not be perfect but it can provide an amazing service.

Use backups

- We shouldn't even joke about this. Use harddrives, burn the tapes. Compress them, move them, run them in parallel. Backup EVERYTHING! - If your builds are automatic, the entire process can be backed up. If you're following along past this point a *real* Disaster Recovery plan might not seem so far fetched.

Keep monitoring specific

- Monitor every damn thing you can, but do it right. Don't get a thousand alerts if your NFS server craps its pants. Don't alert on timeouts if it doesn't make sense for your system. Test for success at the most specific level; sure the service might allow a new TCP connection, and it might even say hello, but does it remember how to do its job? - If you have 500 webservers, you probably don't need to know immediately if one goes down. You _should_ know if the load balancer decided to not take it out of rotation and real human people are seeing its uglyriffic error messages.

Graph data, keep exact historical data

- Graphs are for visualizing trends. Historical data is for crunching numbers. Don't mix the two! It's too easy to get wrong numbers from eyeballing graphs. Many sites use rrd's or other aggregating data systems which will average and smooth out data over time to save on storage space. This means it's not only hard to read, it's wrong. - Don't get trapped having to skim through hundreds of graphs just to pinpoint an issue. If you're trying to find outliers in the graphs, you can pull those out via scripts as well. - If you must use graphs for troubleshooting, try to aggregate high level concepts into a single page, which link into drill-down pages from there. If you can see a spike in the database load, you'll know to click to the page overviewing the databases, then you'd see the one or two iffy machines in question. The idea is to narrow something down fast. Remove as much guesswork as possible.

Log useful information, use multiple streams of data

- Work on your own, and with development, to log as much useful information as you can. Doesn't matter if you live analyze it and store the data somewhere, or lump it into a database and run reports. Information is useful. - Useful examples: Page rendering time (what page, what box, etc), user-facing errors, database and internal service errors, bandwidth usage, etc. - Establish graphs, reports, and do historical comparisons from generalized data. - Reports are really important. Get digested data week-to-week or day-to-day about changes in your infrastructure.

Understand your data storage, databases

- There's an entirely separate set of undrestanding about operating databases, but sometimes you can't leave all of this up to your DBA. - Having multiple, redundant databases affords you many luxuries. Operations that were once many hours of downtime can be done "online" without shelling out for a huge Oracle instance. MySQL and replication is a fantastic thing. - Work with the DBAs to get the best possible hardware for the database in question. RAID10, gobs of RAM, many fast spindles, and potentially RAM disks and SSD's. Ops has access to the vendors, DBA's can beat the pants off the hardware. Find out what works best and save tons of cash in the long run. - Database configurations are changing. Software like HiveDB, MySQL Proxy, DPM exist now. We're absolutely doing partitioned data for huge datasets. We're also thinking outside of the box with software like starling and Gearman. Learn what these are, and understand that not everything will be in a database. - Get a good grip on your filers! If the data's important, back it up! Snapshots on monolithic NFS servers are fantastic, wonderful, and NOT a backup! - Consider alternatives. MogileFS gets better year after year. There're likely other projects for freely and cheaply maintaining massive stores of files. Similar systems were developed for youtube.com, archive.org, etc. We're finally free of expensive NFS filers being the standard!

Scale out a lot, up a little

- You've seen all of the papers. Scale out is really the way to go. Get commodity (read: available, affordable, standard, NOT super cheap) hardware and work with everyone to ensure all aspects possible can scale out. - Scaling out starts at two, work from there. This also happens to encompass redundancy. - Scale out as far as you can without being idiotic about it. The example of MySQL replication with single master, many slaves, is a fantastic example of one form of scale-out sucking. All slaves must do all writes, so as the number of writes scale up with the reads (if they do for your app, which I bet they certainly do), you get less capacity per slave you add. - Keep alternatives in mind. User or range partitioning onto many databases, avoiding production slaves where possible, etc. Good ideas, many ways of implement. - Everything can scale if you give it a chance! Routers, switches, load balancers, webservers, databases. - Remember scale up? Big evil machines with many slow cores, lots of IO boards, and very expensive storage equipment? They're coming back. Well, the CPU part is. - RAM is cheap. - Combine the two, and you just may end up combining services again. A load balancer here, a webserver there... If an application can use many CPUs (apache) this is perfect. If it can't (memcached doesn't get much benefit from it, usually) you can end up wasting tons of available resources by segregating services too much. - Job systems could potentially fill in gaps here. Where there're extra cores, slap up more workers.

Cache

- Caching is good. Developers, sysops, etc. Get on this! Yes, it's weird. It's different. Sometimes you may even need to, gasp, make a tradeoff for it. Effective use of caching can have as much as a ten times increase in overall system performance. That's a giant magnifying glass over the systems you have already and a fraction of the overall cost. - Memcached. Service cache, denormalize DB structures (where it makes performance sense!), squid cache, or even make better usage of OS caches. - Test it, toy with it, and break it. There will be new and different problems with caching. Be prepared for it.

Asyncronous jobs

- Starling, Gearman, The Schwartz, whatever. Job systems allow much more application flexibility. Workers can be spawned one-off, be persistent (load cached data, prepare data, etc), be on different hardware, different locations, and be syncronous or asyncronous. - Maintaining these things is an ops issue. Using them is both a developer and an ops issue. - User clicks "send all my friends an e-mail". Schedule a job, immediately say "okay done! Your friends will receive your spam shortly!" - let the job service multiplex and deal with the issue. - Job systems are great places to bridge services. Blog post -> IM notification, billing cron -> billing services, authentication gateways, etc. - Easy to scale. There will be choke points for where requests come in, and all the workers need to do is pull. This is in contrast with the largely push/pull state of HTTP.

Security and patrols

- Install security updates! Seriously! There's a whole crazy network of people who are dedicated to giving these to you in the shortest period of time possible. Don't let them sit for _years_ because you're afraid of change. - Security is in layers. Accept what you can and cannot secure. Just because mysql has password access doesn't mean it gets to be directly accessable by the internet. - Disable passwords over ssh. Use passphrase encrypted key auth. Remote users _cannot_ guess your private key. They _have_ to get it from you. Keep it safe, and there's no point in firewalling off your ssh port. - Understand how the application works, exactly what it needs to do, and work that to your advantage. If the only part of your application which needs outbound internet access _at all_ are the billing pages and some twitter-posting service, those can easily become job workers. Put the job workers on specific boxes and allow those access to specific hosts. Keep the rest of your network in the dark. - The above is especially important for php sites, but probably works great elsewhere. If someone breaks in, it's most likely going to be through your application. When someone gets in through the front gate, they'll need to haul in their toolbox to get into the safe. Don't let them pull in data and get what they need, or upload the contents of your database somewhere! - These specific suggestions aside, read a lot. Use your best judgement, and test. If you have no understanding of how a security model works, that might not immediately make it worthless, but you certainly don't know where its limits are or even if it works. - Secure based on testing, theory, attack trees, don't stab in the dark. I love it when people dream up obscure security models and ordinary folks like me can smush it to crumbles. - Patrol what you can! Audit logins, logouts, commands used. All accesses to external facing services, including all arguments given in the request. Find outliers, outright ban input outside of the scope of your application, and do what you can actively and have the data to work retroactively. - If you suspect something's been cracked, *take proper precaution* and understand a little computer forensics (or get a company that does). Respond by removing network access, checking the system through serial console or direct terminal, and avoiding using any service, config file, or data on the compromised machine. Too many people "clean up a trojan' and never understand how it got there, or if they've _actually cleaned it up_. - If you do have a security team, forensics expert, or anyone else onhand, you must touch the machine as little as possible and isolate it. This means not rebooting it to "clear out some funky running processes". They need to be able to get at those. If you need to half ass it, go ahead, but remember to wipe the system completely clean, apply any security updates, and do your best to figure out if they've compromised any important data. Do what you can. - Security is an incredible balancing act. If you do it wrong, developers, users, etc, will revolt and find ways around it. If they _can_ get around it, you're not doing your job right. If they _can't_ get around it, they might just give up and leave. - Keep an iron grip on access control. This means ops must absolutely provide windows for what doors have been locked. Kicking development off of production entirely means they get to stab in the dark on fixing hard problems. Providing logging, debugging tools, etc, without allowing them to directly change the service, will be a win for all aspects of production.

The Human Element

Learn from many sources

- Fill up some RSS feeds, and read at least a few good articles per week. LWN, kerneltrap, undeadly.org, whatever's relevant, or even loosely related, to what you do. - Read blogs from smart people. Sometimes they post interesting topics, and comment streams give us the unique ability to directly converse with the masters. - Read a few blogs from not so smart people. Get a feel for what stumps them, or what they do that doesn't work so well. - Get to know people who can kick your ass, at anything. Stay humble. - Help find your own strengths by taking in from many sources, and gobbling up what envigorates you. - Read up on success and failure stories from other companies. Ring up their CTO's and get them to divulge advise over free lunch.

Try many things

- You'll be amazed at what you can do if you keep trying. Never seen something before? Give it a shot. - Try to not be a dangerous newbie. Play in the sandbox until you're comfortable enough to not burn down the house.

Understand redundancy

- Really understand how redundancy affects things. How it works, how it doesn't work. - Break redundant systems in a test lab, sometimes in production. Learn what you can while you're in control. Unplug the power, yank cards out, kill processes, run the box out of memory, yank a harddrive, yank ethernet. - Test replacing and upgrading systems in a redundant setup. Maybe you can toss in that brand new hal-o-tron 8000 without taking downtime.

Understand scalability

- There're tons of papers on making scalable systems. Even if you can't write one yourself, try to understand the theory. - Learn with virtualization. Set up a few virtual machines and try tossing up applications to multiple machines. Run multiple instances locally on different ports. - It's usually the job of operations to do proper capacity planning. You won't know what to do add unless you truely understand where resources should be added.

Become a troubleshooting superstar

- The moment something breaks the clock is ticking. You must be able to pull out your arsenal and use them effectively. - Practice troubleshooting. Pick a perfectly good, working page, and try to track down how it works. - strace, ltrace, lsof, logs. - Understand that load != load. Look at all available information as to how a host is performing or behaving. - Be very familiar with the tools for your IO system. Often "mysterious" performance problems happen beacuse your RAID or SAN setup isn't happy for some reason. - Leave documentation. Checklists, troubleshooting tips, build tools. - Build more tools. For yourself, for other people, or add features to existing ones.

Work with IT

- Believe it or not, there is overlap. - Ops has to maintain high bandwidth network access for servers. IT has to do the same for people, and is often the bridge ops has *into* the datacenter. It may make sense to work together on this one. - Draw the right line. IT should manage mail, but ops should manage development servers. Don't offload things you don't need to, and offer to do what you do best if necessary. - Don't alienate people. Macs are popular, linux is (slowly) gaining share. Believe it or not, forcing everyone to use microsoft productivity software can bite you. There are plenty of alternatives, try one. Odds are more people in your company are familiar with google apps than they are with outlook. - Don't make it more difficult than you have to do for people to run a unix system natively. Unless your backend is a windows shop, wouldn't you want people to have more familiarity with the OS they're supposed to support?

Work with developers

- You both work on the same product, for the same purpose. Try working together a little more. - Having strategy meetings is not working together. - Development understands the code resources the best, and operations understands the hardware and deployment the best. You can design something more efficient by taking all of this into mind. - Cross training. Disseminating information can show how tools and designs on both sides can be improved to be more manageable and resilient. - Be careful of being too demanding on either side. It's not an Us vs Them. Everyone's human. Everyone should be doing as much as they can for the company, not for themselves. - It's more pleasent to handle crunch times and emergencies when everyone gets along.

Work with ops

- Ops folks have their specialties. Networking, databases, OS. Don't forget to talk to each other! - Getting stuck in a rut is demotivating, boring, and a good way to lose people. Even if your systems ops guy has the ability to look over the shoulder of the network guy, they have the opportunity to learn. - Always give people an opportunity to try, learn, and grow. - Be careful of rewarding your best with too much work. If there're people who can pick up slack, you use them. - Bad eggs. It happens. Be tough enough to deal with them. Most people can be turned around with a little help, but they need to be able to be independent.

The Practice

Fix it now, not later

- If a webserver goes offline, don't care about it. You have ten spare, right? - Pick a day during the week to sweep up broken crap. Replace any broken hardware, ensure everything's 100% before swinging into the weekend. - If small, annoying problems crop up, fix them permanently first thing in the morning. Logs fill up the disk twice last week? Come in fresh the next day, and fix it for good. These stack up, and suck. - If you have automated builds, use this to your advantage to fix what you can right away, or in bulk.

Automate everything

- Humans can't screw up scripted tasks (as easily). - Do it twice. Once by hand if you must, then roll up what you did into a script. - Commented scripts make fantastic documentation. Instead of writing twenty pages detailing how to install something (which is up to interpretation of the reader!), write a script which explains what it does. - Scripts can be rolled up into automated builds. The more often something is done, the closer it should get to becoming a zero time task.

Change what's necessary

- Make small, isolated changes. - If you don't have to change it, leave it. - This also means you must understand _when_ to change. Find what's necessary and upgrade it, switch it out, make it standard.

Design for change

- If you can't do it right immediately, get on the road to it being right. - This means if you don't have time to do something right, get the basics going with a clear migration roadmap to the right thing. While your new mail system might not be the crazy cool redundant bounce-processing spam monster you dream of, installing postfix and setting up two hosts with a clean configuration gets you closer than you might think. - This does have a tendency to leave unfinished projects everywhere, but you were going to do that anyway. :)

Practice updating content, fast

- It's usually the job of operations to push out code. Don't suck at it. Push in parallel, apply rolling restarts, be an efficient machine. - This includes software updates, security patches, and configuration changes. - Use puppet, cfengine, whatever you need to control the configuration. Keep it clean, simple, and easy. - The fewer files one must change to make a necessary adjustment the better. If you're adding one line to 20 files just to push out a new database, you're doing it wrong. Build simple templates, build outward, and don't repeat data which needs to be edited by hand.

Standardize, stick to the standard

- Pick one or two standard OS's, httpd's, databases, package systems. - Stick with them. Adjust and upgrade methods as it makes sense. - Don't stick with that major version forever. Unless your product is going to be feature frozen forever, you'll need to keep the standard rolling forward, and everthing behind it. - The _more_ is standard, the more places your tools will work. The more packages for other parts of the operation will "just work" everywhere else too.

Document well

- Document process - Document product - Categorize into shallow trees. - Don't redundantly document. If a script has a long help, ask the reader to refer to that. The closer the documentation is to the program being discussed, the more likely it is to stay accurate. - Marry documentation into code. perldoc, pydoc, etc. - Out of date documentation is poisonous. Reserve time to keep things up to date. Sit down with new employees and update documentation as they run into problems. - Use ticketing systems, with moderation. Documentation of history is important as well. Forcing people to create detailed process tickets for a DNS is just pissing in other people's cheerios.

Use source control

- Use git, or mercurial. Avoid SVN like the black plague. - Put all of your configurations, scripts hacks, whatever, into source control. - Keep checkouts everywhere... - Keep strict, clean, master checkouts. No one should be able to push changes that aren't comitted, but it should also be easy to test changes (in a VM, directly on a single test machine) without having to wrestle with the source control.

Hire well

- Discern between stubborn and smart - Don't avoid hiring senior. Some people really know their shit. Some _seem_ like they do. Others are "senior" in a particular area and will fall behind as technology changes. While you might want to avoid some, there are definitely rockstars out there. - Don't avoid hiring junior. I know so many people who've started really junior (including myself! I still view myself as junior), who've shot up through the ranks and are now have firm established careers. I'd believe most of us have. Except there are ones who don't learn, don't have the motivation, or are in the wrong field.

Avoid vendor lock in, and keep a good relationship with the vendors you do use

- Buying propreitary hardward has the major downside of potentially locking you into always using it. It might be a particular SAN, NAS, special-case direct attached storage, backup systems, etc. Avoid getting sucked in. If you follow all of the above design advise, one should be able to build test environments on different platforms quickly. You're then able to keep on top of hardware evaluations and keep choices open. - If everything's deep, dark, gnarled, undocumented, and directly dependent on your fancy proprietary load balancer, you'll never wriggle free of it. - Be nice to the vendors you do end up using. If you "push them _hard_ on price!" for every single purchase, expect some shit hardware to show up. - Datacenters these days have a lot of potentially useful resources. Try to throw some free remote hands service into your contract and abusing that to get harddrives replaced, vendor items shipped/RMA'ed, and some basic hardware installs. I've had entire racks of equipment delivered and installed with barely a visit from an employee... and damn, it's nice.

Give Open Source a serious try

- nginx, mongrel, lighttpd, apache, perlbal, mogilefs, memcached, squid, OpenBGPD, PF, IPTables, LVS, MySQL, Postgres, blah, blah, blah. Before you hop back on that trusty, reliable, expensive proprietary setup, give open source a shot. You might find yourself adding plugins, extensions, code fixes or contracting help to bring features you'd never be able to do otherwise. In my own experience OSS is just as reliable, often moreso, than big expensive hardware when put under significant load. - The idea of "you get what you pay for" is a complete lie. If you can't make OSS work for you and need the hand holding, you _can_ still go with a vendor. If you have a smart, motivated team, who really want to learn and understand how their infrastructure runs, you just can't beat some hardy GPL'ed or BSD'ed systems. - MySQL and Postgres are fine. Call them tradeoffs if you will; nothing's going to crawl out of your closet and night and eat your data. Sure, it does happen, but you're much more likely to be screwed over with monolithic oracle instances going offline (it happens!) than you are with a well tested and stable MySQL instance, in a redundant master<->master cluster pair. - I'd say 'cite references' - but go look around. Check out any number of articles on the LAMP stack. Most major dot coms, ISP's, and even corporations now are adopting. Give it a shot. The worst you'll have is some lost time, and another product to scare your vendor into dropping price with.

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There’s something particularly excruciating about a joke going too far. Not just for the victim but the bystanders, too. Maybe someone laughs a little too long – and thus a little too meanly – or kills the comedy by repeating the punchline one too many times. Or maybe, as happened with Pedro Pascal last week, the joke oversteps some boundaries and makes everyone uncomfortable. That’s right, the internet daddy fun is over. Time to awkwardly stand in silence until someone changes the subject.
What started out as a slew of horny tweets and TikToks last month soon led to The Last of Us actor being forced to field question after question about his online heartthrob status in interviews. At first – as in the resurfaced 2022 clip that kicked it all off – Pascal was a good sport, playfully revelling in his newfound role as the internet’s thirst trap. But he was clearly uncomfortable during a red carpet interview with Access Hollywood last week in which he was asked to read tweets about himself out loud. Initially willing, Pascal declined after taking a closer look, labelling them “dirty” and politely laughing through near-gritted teeth.

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The clip soon went viral, alongside the caption: “This is the worst thing I’ve ever seen.” Many Twitter users were quick to agree, with some labelling the interaction sexual harassment and others accused the daddy discourse itself of being objectifying and dehumanising. There were suggestions there’d be uproar if a woman was subjected to the same treatment, particularly in a professional setting. Some pointed out that it was also unfair to put Pascal on the spot like that, observing that BuzzFeed’s Thirst Tweets series is usually planned in advance, with the pre-arranged consent of its participants.
The video is indeed a painful watch – and for women, it’s also a familiar one. The archive of women fielding sexist interview questions stretches back many decades. Remember Scarlett Johansson being asked about her underwear? Or Helen Mirren having to comment on whether her figure distracts from her work? Or Lady Gaga, over 30 years later, being asked the exact same question? Taylor Swift and Rihanna have also frequently been framed in red carpet interviews as being predominantly interesting for their sex appeal. While the tide hasn’t turned on this behaviour – far from it – it seems women are no longer the only ones being obnoxiously and unpleasantly sexualised.
The peak of Pascal’s objectification comes shortly after Paul Mescal – the internet’s… brother? – divulged two disturbing encounters with fans. In an interview with British GQ in November, the Irish actor recalled meeting a woman who, referencing Normal People, told him: “I didn’t think the show was any good, but I saw your willy and I have a photo.” Then, two weeks ago in an interview with ES Magazine, the Aftersun star revealed that a woman groped his bum as the pair posed for a photo outside London’s Almeida Theatre, where Mescal’s currently starring in A Streetcar Named Desire. “I remember tensing up and feeling just, like, fury,” he said of the latter.

https://www.gq-magazine.co.uk/lifestyle/article/the-rabid-sexualisation-of-male-actors-is-getting-creepy